I have been trying to teach Kaden to think more positive about things, and try to find 1 thing good in every situation, good or bad.
I have explained it to him and how to do it, yet he still needs reminding sometimes. I am determined to teach my kids that no matter what life throws at you, it isn't so bad if you take a step back and look at it from a different angle. I want them to understand that life isn't always pretty, or fun, but if you can find something good in every bad and laugh even when it doesn't seem too funny right now, you will have a great life. I tell them that only you can determine how a situation is going to impact you and how you feel.
Being sad, depressed, angry, lonely, negative all the time sucks, and if you keep being that way people will avoid you and your attitude. Life is too short to not have fun, don't dwell on the bad.
Like if you don't feel well, or something is going wrong, the more you think about it and feel sorry for yourself the worse it will be. Push it all aside and tell yourself, you are not going to live like that anymore. It is your life, choose to enjoy it, show your kids that it is a good thing.
So here is one thing that happened yesterday to Kaden and he almost flipped out because he thought it was so bad. I reminded him to think happy, and laugh.
Kaden was brushing his teeth before school, I went in the bathroom to quickly go before we left. I was just about to close the lid on the toilet and flush it when Kaden dropped a stack of paper cups in the toilet. We both stood there for a second, I could tell he was about to get upset, thinking he was in trouble and wondering how we were going to fix this. I looked at him and started laughing while I quickly grabbed the last dry spot on the cup and took them out & trew them away. Kaden had this look on his face, like he didn't know why I was laughing. I told him that it sucked it happened, but it was really funny, gross but funny.
Today I was getting quarters ready so I could go to the Laundromat with Tessa to dry clothes after we dropped Kaden off. Kaden says to me, " that is so bad you have a broken dryer, cause now you have to hang stuff up around the house & go to the Laundromat." I told him that is wasn't so bad, and to think of something positive about it. He thought and didn't come up with anything. I asked him what he thought about it being good that the washer still worked. He says "Oh yeah, that is a good thing." Then I tell him that we also get to go to some place different and meet new people, that today will not be a boring day for Tessa and I.
I try really hard to laugh everyday. Sometimes it is to keep from crying, sometimes I laugh so hard I do cry! I always try to make sure my kids laugh too. Sometimes they need help finding something, most times they don't. Travis has gotten good about finding the positive and Kaden is on his way. They both have great sense of humors and love to laugh, and like there mother find the craziest things funny.
So... What do you do to stay positive and find the good?? Do you laugh everyday?
Remember: No one controls your emotions, how you choose to react to situations is your choice. Life is only as good and happy as you make it and choose to be. Life is all about choices and the ramifications of those choices. Please make a choice to be happy, you'll be glad you did!!
Disclaimer: By no means do I think I am perfect, I just know that I lived my life feeling sorry for myself and blaming others for all the bad in my life too long. I saw it was negatively impacting my children and knew it was time for me to change my attitude, outlook and future. I have days where I don't feel good and many days I am in pain from one thing or another (getting older does that to you) but I usually don't dwell on it or make my discomfort know all the time. Life is only as good as you want it to be & as good as you make it.
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